I posted a meme on Instagram the other day. It stated, “Can we bring back men who take women on REAL dates, opening the car doors for them, and bringing flowers for no reason…” It provoked some comments. And some thoughts of my own. One of the comments mentioned, “Women don’t like that anymore. #newgeneration” I believe it is far more deeper than that. I feel as though it stems from a variety of things. We are humans, we get influenced. You know how parents protect who touches their baby and what their baby listens to. Well even in your adult life you should protect those hears and be meticulous when it comes to who touches you.
The music we listen to, the books we read and the people we are surrounded by play a huge part. We mimic what we see and hear without even realizing it. Maryanne Wolf, a developmental psychologist once said, “We are how we read.” I couldn’t agree more with that statement. It plays a vital part in how we interact with one another. Do you take your time and disect what you have read? Or do you skim and aim to quickly understand? Hastiness only creates wastefullness.
People should get to know the person they are dating. Which leads me to this question. Do people take the time to have those conversations on the phone? Probably not. Many things are instant nowadays. People tend to feel that they do not have time. Yes. We are in a different generation and many things have immensely changed. We have gone from flip phones, to sidekicks, to touch screen phones. Not to mention the vast amount of social sites we have been accustomed to. With these changes it inevitably invokes a shift in society. Maybe #WCW (Women Crush Wednesday) on social media is the substitute for flowers. The game of wooing has changed. If you want more than that. Voice it. If that doesn’t bring forth cultivation between you two. Free yourself from that situation.
All it takes is a discussion.
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